Why I Love It When People Unsubscribe From My Email List

Here’s why it’s a good thing to lose subscribers and followers

Andrew Macrae
3 min readMay 8, 2020
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You nurture your baby email list like a clucky mother hen. You cheer every new subscriber.

You draft and re-draft your posts, preview after preview. You edit and edit and edit. You press send and hold your breath.

Then the inevitable unsubscribes come, each like a dagger to your heart.

What did you do wrong? Why don’t they love you? You worked so hard. You made it just for them, and they’re unsubscribing!

Relax. Take a breath.

Losing subscribers is a good thing.

But before we get to why, let’s first unpack the reason it hurts so much.

Why unsubscribes and unfollows hurt

No one likes rejection, and losing subscribers and followers feels like rejection.

But there’s something else going on here: a cognitive effect called loss aversion.

The idea, first articulated by Kahneman and Tversky (1979), is that “losses loom larger than gains”. In fact, in a later paper, Kahneman and Tversky (1992) show that losses might be twice as powerful psychologically as…



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